[Blind Gossip] When parents divorce, they usually try to do what is best for the children as far as custody is concerned.
In the case of this movie star couple, though, there is a distinct lack of balance in their approaches!
Most couples resolve to a 50/50 split. Not her. She wants primary custody in the realm of 90/10 or 75/25. She would actually like 100/0 but she knows that will not happen.
Does she think he is a bad father?
She despises him and his family. She is trying to raise global citizens. She thinks that their view of the world is harmful. “Narrow” is a word that is used a lot.
Don’t the children miss their time with his family?
Honestly, it’s been so long that they don’t have strong memories or strong attachments to his family. She doesn’t keep photos of his family around the house, either, so his family is just not part of their day to day lives.
Does she think she can continue to drag out the custody issue for years?
So far that strategy has worked for her. She will continue to try to throw up roadblocks. She believes that the longer she can drag out the custody hearings, the more likely he will cave and demand less than 50/50 just to get it over with.
Is she trying to punish him or wear him down?
A little of both. She knows that the lack of a resolution hurts him, so you could say she is trying to punish him.
Doesn’t she worry that this will hurt the children?
No. By dragging her feet, the time ticks by and the children become more attached to her and the lifestyle she believes is best for them, and less attached to him and his family and their “narrow” lifestyle. From her perspective, that is a positive outcome.
She has been willing to publicly expose his shortcomings. Why doesn’t he do the same to her?
That’s a good question. She has been willing to throw him under the bus for his weaknesses (alcohol, drugs) but he has always balked on doing the same to her. He worries that it would hurt the kids and alienate them from him more if he was the one who made her problems (eating disorder, drug use, etc.) public.
There is a chance, though, that one of their witnesses could be called by an attorney to do that. That would take the burden off of him.
Any chance the two of them will get back together?
NO. There is zero chance of that happening.
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[Optional] What advice would you give him? How do you think this will turn out?