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[Blind Gossip] When an actress is “not thrilled” about her ex’s new relationship, it’s because she is jealous, right?

Guess again.

It’s actually about sobriety.

She did try to keep the family together for a long time, but she’s past that. Now it’s all about keeping him sober for the sake of the kids. She literally spent years trying to get him away from his addictions, but instead of being grateful, he always hated that she was trying “parent” him.

[The New Girlfriend] is the opposite. She tells him that he is an adult and he can make his own choices! He thinks that she is cool because she trusts him and gives him permission to do whatever he wants.

[Ex] knows that this is a huge mistake because she lived with that addict for years and she knows how bad he can get. She knows that all these things (gambling, drinking, drugs, sex) are linked together and that if he does one it is just a matter of time before he relapses into the others. That is the real reason why she “isn’t thrilled” about this relationship.

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[Optional] Do you think he will stay sober and faithful in this new relationship?

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  1. throwsumshade says

    Having been in 2 relationships with substance abusers I learned the hard way that they will tell you what you want to hear and then do what they want anyway. Any kind of addiction is hard to live with but ultimately you have to do what is right for you and if the addict is ready for change, they will. Otherwise you expend all your energy trying to change them. I think Garner did this. Gave him so many chances, so many ultimatums and he did change, for a while. She needs to move on.

  2. Ihatenate says

    Of course it’s Jen and Ben. He looks awful. And the girl he’s with now looks just as awful. Maybe they deserve each other.
    Will he change? No. All she can do is to continue being the best Mom she can and refocus her energies spent on him elsewhere.
    Question though- didnt she cheat/leave Scott Foley for Ben?

  4. shelaur22 says

    Jennifer Garner, Ben Affleck. She’s still trying to parent him. He IS an adult and is going to make his own choices. He doesn’t need permission from anyone and at the end of the day, he is going to do what he wants to do. She needs to let that/it/him GO and move on. I don’t believe that she has, not if she’s still monitoring him.

  5. CelticLuv says

    Easy… Ben and Jen… Honey get over it. He is a waste. Take your beautiful children and move on… but also I hope you are not one of those controlling mates. It will get you no where.

  6. GretaGuesses says

    Ben Affleck

    Jennifer Garner

    No, he won’t be faithfully or sober. His new girlfriend looks like a dude, and she’s probably a drinking buddy. I have read that he’s been seeing Ms. Shookusallnightlong since 2013. I think he looks ill, like an alcoholic.

  7. janewhere12 says

    Actor: Ben Affleck
    Actress: Saint Jennifer Garner: Patron Saint of Skirt Chasers and Drunks

  9. Laughing1 says

    I was married to an alcoholic, and I don’t think Ben Affleck is even remotely currently sober. Not at all.

  10. amagod121 says

    Ben Affleck
    Jen Garner

    No, I honestly do not. I know the signs of an active drinker and can see in Ben’s bleary, unfocused eyes that he’s off the wagon. When he and “new” girlfriend left the restaurant in yesterday’s (or the day before’s) news, they had to-go cups that looked like they had wine in them. Yes, it’s all great and cool until suddenly it isn’t. If she wants a guy who perpetually acts like he’s 20-something because the booze has impaired his emotional growth, then she’s…

  15. Aurelia says

    Actor: Ben Affleck (sp?)
    Ex: Jennifer G.
    Optional: Nope. A calm life will never suit an interior life such as his.

  19. twodawgs says

    Ben Affleck & jennifer Garner — his new “love” Snookus or whatever it is…

  20. JenJenJen says

    Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner.
    Doubtful. I think he can work to overcome the alcohol and gambling addictions perhaps but he’s a cheater for life.

  21. Marybel says

    Ben and Jen. She just needs to cut her losses and move on. The kids will figure out that he likes his vices better than he likes his family. She can’t control him and never could.

  23. KCeagle says

    Ben Affleck
    Jennifer Garner

    He!! no Ben won’t remain sober or faithful to anyone or anything but himself. Or maybe his rumored longtime boyfriend… Matt Damon lol. Too bad Ben can’t be there for his kids. They deserve better than an absentee, scandalous dad, who’s not always 100% present, because he’s wasted.

  26. roisinm says

    Actor: Ben Affleck
    Ex: Jennifer Garner

    I feel for her, she’s dragged him out of the gutter more than once……

  32. MizGrandma says

    Ben Affleck
    Jennifer Garner
    Nope, he’ll be back to all his old addictions & unfaithful ways very soon. That’s what addicts do, don’cha know?

  34. Neduardo says

    This is Brad Pitt with Angelina Jolie as the ex.

    No, he won’t stay sober or faithful. That shouldn’t be a problem for party girl Sienna Miller as that seems to be her type!

  35. AmandaHugginkiss says

    Jen Garner. They make this woman seem like a saint. She just might be. She’s never slandered Been and has always kept their issues as private as possible. This is the mark of a woman/person who has really loved another person. I believe she does this out of love for her kids AND out of love for Ben, even if she doesn’t want him for herself anymore. Kudos to you Jen Garner. The true definition of the long suffering wife.

  36. JerzeyJenn says

    Actor: Ben Affleck

    His Actress Ex: Jennifer Garner

    Do you think he will stay sober and faithful in this new relationship? His new or old (allegedly) SNL producer Shookus (sp?) is just his party rebound girlfriend. This isnt gona last. He’s unfortunately probably gona relapse, Shookus is gonna bail, and Jenns once again gona be their pick up the pieces until the next time…Sad situation for such a nice family. I think if he ever beats his demons Jenn& he will hav a chance.

  38. Xanadu says

    Ben Affleck

    Jennifer Garner

    He might stay faithful, but past behavior suggests he won’t be sober and won’t stop gambling. It will take a health predicament (liver failure) for him to stop the drink.

  39. raerae403 says

    Obviously this is Ben and Jen and the new blonde girlfriend – I can’t remember her name…

  40. justme04 says

    Ben Affleck and Jen Garner

    Ben allegedly dating one of the women he cheated on Jen with who also cheated on her husband with Ben. Sounds like she may have her own set of issues so of course she will be an enabler.

    I feel bad for his kids and Jen since she tried so hard to straighten him out but you can’t force an addict to quit. They have to hit bottom and choose it for themselves.

  41. amala83 says

    Actor: Ben Affleck

    His Actress Ex: Jennifer Garner

    [Optional] Do you think he will stay sober and faithful in this new relationship? Most likely not.

  42. nycmadam says

    Ben Affleck

    Jennifer Garner

    No, it doesn’t seem like he works hard enough at his sobriety. My guess there will be a relapse (or three).

  45. Kingofboggle says

    Ben Affleck
    Jennifer Garner
    New girlfriend Lindsay Shookus

    And of course not. She’s a producer on SNL. She probably does just as much blow at he does. This will end badly

  48. elphie says

    Ben Affleck and that new chick…. I say good riddance… the kids are old enough to see the truth, and believe me… they already know

  50. cj2608 says

    Ben Affleck
    Jennifer Gardner

    Probably not. Addiction is no joke and isn’t about making “adult choices.” Lindsay Shookus is either an addict as well, or she’s super jaded by the rampant drug use in the SNL circles.

  51. Ramalama says

    Actor:Ben Affleck

    His Actress Ex:Jennifer Garner

    [Optional] Do you think he will stay sober and faithful in this new relationship? Oh hell no, it’s only a matter of time…

  52. PollyMetropolitan says

    Actor: Ben Afflek

    Ex: Jennifer Garner

    Optional: Nope — he will get drunk and hook up. If he can’t stay sober and faithful for his wife and family, he certainly won’t do it for his enabler GF.

  54. Jelly Drop says

    Ben Affleck
    Jennifer Garner

    He is dating SNL producer Lindsay Snookus. This will not last.

  56. GoogleSleuth says

    Jennifer Garner/Ben Affleck/Lindsay Shookus.

    Bonus: No, he is an addict. Addicts, by definition, can’t do things in moderation. This will not end well for anyone involved.

  57. lorir21 says

    Ah, Ben. You have it all, but your demons are stronger. I hope Jen realizes that she cannot fix him, even for the children.

  58. pigerella says

    Ben Affleck
    Jennifer Garner

    No, because he’s an addict. But I think it’s time for Jennifer Garner to step away & protect her kids. She can’t control who is in his life.

  76. ShadowSandy says

    Brad Pitt

    Angelina Jolie

    Don’t know, but “mothering” never works out. As their failed marriage has demonstrated.

  77. GingerGirl3 says

    Ben Afleck and Jennifer Gardner. He is such a train wreck I feel bad for his kids. That picture of him all sweaty just looked awful and very unhealthy. His poor son won’t remember his dad when he wasn’t a mess at this rate. Poor Jen for trying so hard for so long to clean him up. She can at least know she did the best she could for him and for her kids. I really hope she’s moved on and is over his drama.

  83. smoolieloo says

    Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner.
    No. I don’t think he can stay sober and faithful in his new relationship.

  84. Blackberry says

    Actor: Ben Affleck

    His Actress Ex: Jennifer Garner

    [Optional] Do you think he will stay sober and faithful in this new relationship?: Nope. If wont get sober for his kids, he isn’t going to get sober for anything.

  86. Nanalana says

    Actor: Ben Affleck
    His actress ex: Jennifer Garner
    He won’t stay sober, but his new relationship is not to blame. He just can’t stay sober.

  91. january13 says

    Ben Afflec & Jennifer Garner

    Optional: No he’s a cheater & it does not sound like she is encouraging sobriety

  96. Vidalia Q Intrigue says

    Ben Affleck
    Jennifer Garner

    I don’t think he’s capable of staying sober, or his marriage to Jen might have been salvageable.

  97. TwistedSweetness says

    Ben

    Jen

    Hell no, he can’t keep it in his pants!

    She has every reason to be worried for the kids. Not only will he be an absentee father, he’ll be a crappier one to his kids. His kids are old enough to see and hear about his antics and she won’t be able to protect them. But then again Jen, karma is a *.

  99. mona lisas and mad hatters says

    Ben Affleck
    Jennifer Garner

    Staying faithful and sober is HIS CHOICE to make. He will if he wants to badly enough – AND works a Professional Treatment Program.

    Few people, least of all men, want to be ‘parented’ in a romantic relationship. If J became a ‘nagging mummy’ that would lead to him resisting and circling the drain with even more gusto. Now she’s using the kids as an excuse to nag.

    J’s behaving like a classic controlling co-dependent.

    Best of luck to them.

    • louisianagurl says

      He is responsible for his behavior. She doesn’t deserve to be villified in any way. They don’t train you on how to deal with this behavior. She was trying to protect her kids, her husband and herself the best way she knew how. at least she tried.

  102. CocoGaga says

    Ben Affleck

    Jennifer Garner

    I feel bad for Jennifer. It seems like she did what she thought was the right thing in trying to hang on in there for the sake of their family. She’s totally better off without him, but he’s still the father of her kids so is always going to be in her life in that respect. And no, I doubt he’ll stay sober or faithful…

  103. jonty30 says

    I’d tell Kourtney to forget him, because he will be a lodestone around her neck forever.

  108. Jester says

    Ben Affleck
    Jennifer Garner

    No, I don’t think he will remain sober, nor faithful. Allegedly, didn’t he relapse again when Jennifer gave him one last chance this past time? In any case, I don’t think this relationship will help matters. Another sad story…

  111. Goodgrief says

    This is Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner, he will not stay faithful to the new one, but I don’t think she expects him to. Sounds like she is ok with him doing whatever he wants as long as she is the one seen on his arm. So he needs to be discreet. As for the booze and drugs, I think Jen will still keep an eye on him because of the kids. He would probably lose joint custody rights if he got too bad.

  112. Justmyself says

    Ben and Jen.

    New girlfriend will find herself needing a new boyfriend.. how she got him is going to be how she loses him and word has it, she was the other woman.

  114. Baileygirl says

    Ben and Jen. No, there is no chance of fidelity or sobriety with Ben. He cannot accept the fact that he is and addict and until he does all of his relationships will be out of control. I give Jennifer Garner props for trying to get him to choose his children over alcohol but the choice is his in the end. He didn’t like that she was trying to “parent” him. Well Ben, stop acting like a spoiled child and she would not have to take on that role.

  115. hobbychef says

    Ben Affleck
    Jennifer Garner
    No way he’ll ever be sober and faithful to anyone! He’s a lost cause.

  116. High Steppa says

    Ben Affleck and Jen Garner. No, he won’t stay sober and faithful. I don’t think he has it in him.

  119. TruveyTaylor says

    Ben Affleck
    Jennifer Garner

    Just let him relapse. Maybe one day he can decide to get it together. Unfortunately their kids will have to learn about his messy self in the media.

  121. dberlcri says

    the guy in the pic kinda reminds me of Brad Pitt, though I don’t recall ever hearing he had gambling issues, so maybe this is about Ben Affleck?

  130. Kerzep says

    Ben Affleck, Jennifer Garner

    I have no idea if he will stay sober, but I hope he is taking care of himself.

  131. plumplum says

    Jen garner and Ben Affleck

    I think he is NOT sober now. Who go to Las Vegas to be sober ?

  132. javelina says

    Actor: Ben affleck

    His Actress Ex: Jen Garner

    [Optional] Do you think he will stay sober and faithful in this new relationship?

    No, he won’t stay sober and faithful. Makes me think J.Lo is a genius for recognizing his demons and escaping when she could, with no children in the crosshairs!

  136. LeeLee12345 says

    Ben & Jen

    No, he will not stay sober or faithful. And if he can’t stay sober, then access to the children should be pulled.

  137. SouthJerseyGirl says

    Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck. If he continues to be with someone who is an enabler, he is bound to fail at any attempt to stop drinking, gambling, drug use, etc.

  138. LC1216 says

    Ben and Jen G

    Absolutely not. Never, now way, no how. A leopard never ever ever changes their spots. Once a cheater, always a cheater. He’s an addict, he will forever have an addiction. Whether it’s drinking, gambling, sex, strip clubs, drugs…he’ll always have them to a degree.

    • whateverwillbe14 says

      ‘Once a cheater, always a cheater’

      You know that applies to Jen, too? She cheated on her last guy to get with Ben.

  139. jeanmarieok says

    Jennifer Garner, Ben Affleck, and his new side piece Lindsey whatever.

    I believe her concern is genuine. He will be neither sober nor faithful.

  141. lovefifteen says

    Ben Affleck
    Jennifer Garner

    Of course he won’t stay sober. He is already looking pretty rough. I hope that Jennifer can find an amazing guy because she deserves it.

    • katheryn says

      You have to wonder why she continued to have babies and stay with a guy like this. She really needs to make the best of it and stop trying to control his behaviour- get on with your life Jennifer, have a good one.

    • wfreshie says

      wasn’t she quoted as saying “Ben was the love of her life”” but still….don’t stay and keep having babies with someone with so many problems

    • SugarCookie says

      The love of her life? This is a smart woman. How could she dismiss the long term debilitating effects it would have on her kids to grow up with a father that is a toxic, narcissistic addict and cheater?! Unbelievably selfish of her. Although he is even worse. Some people should not be parents.

  143. kvetro60 says

    Jen Garner not being happy with Ben’s relapse into alcohol and gambling with the girlfriend not caring.

    • zappy2050 says

      Jen Garner. What a miserable existence.
      She has suffered so long – you wish she could find peace.