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First of all, I would just like to say that being closeted is the hardest part of being in the spotlight, especially when one is famous for their “looks.”
I am an American film actor and I have been pretty much inside of the fragile wardrobe for some time now…
I wasn’t “gay” or “into men” persay throughout my whole career or life for that matter. Only did I realize a few years ago that my attraction towards men grew and grew over a period of time and from friendly grazes did it turn into something more with malice. I’ve only ever had relations of the romantic sort with men possibly once or twice in my whole life (and its been just as exhilarating with women) and was one of those regretful “one night only” incidents I could never ever speak of again.
Away from that, I am of American descent and an actor and more than anything, I love my job with a passion, so much so that even up until now, I still don’t have the heart to come out despite being one of the few “straight” activists for the community.
The public as far as I’m aware of has made zero rumors of my sexuality, seeing as how I’ve been caught dating quite a lot of women in the span of only a decade. This (I’m not even sure at this point if I should be thankful that the media doesn’t take notice of this) dating “spree” of mine if you must is really genuine and I do feel attraction to women; quite a lot.
With that being said, I never went publicly about my supposed “bisexuality.” And yes, I do believe I am bisexual (I’ve only come to realize it around the mid-2000’s if I recall correctly) and am completely proud of it.
But being proud does not equate committing what is arguably “career suicide.” I never felt like I needed role models in terms of sexuality since I felt extremely comfortable in my own skin and felt zero self-hate with this feeling growing up (my family has been extremely supportive and having siblings who were gay helped), its just that I can’t tell the world about this and risk my life’s work be ruined.
I have starred in a lot of action movies that have been recently on trend with what teenagers love to watch and that further amplifies my guilt. Being a closeted man with a fanbase comprised of women of all ages (possibly due to the fact that I am also a leading man in many romantic comedy’s) and teenagers of both sexes, I feel like it is a responsibility to be an inspiration for these kids to be free and be who they want to be especially since I play a character in my most well-known movies that portrays everything an American man should be.
But in Hollywood, you just can’t pretend like everything will be fine and dandy the moment you come out and start to promote the community to the society. I’d risk losing half of my fanbase and the movies that I’d be offered to if I came out. My manager who is also one of my best buds has always supported me in my personal decisions but has constantly warned me that if I do attempt to come out, sadly, I should do it when my career starts to dwindle and right now my career is at its peak and according to my team, right now (coming out) my “profile” would be extremely boosted but I would most probably lose about 10+ film offers with massive paychecks and big names to boot.
Right now, I am dating a charming and hilarious woman, and I am very much in love with her (and yes, she knows and is fully accepting of it). However, I still can’t come to terms with the fact that I can’t tell the world of my true identity and its been hurting my relationship with her over the past few months.
I’d consider myself someone you would never suspect to have an attraction to men since I grew up in a very sports-oriented family. That being said I do love theater and grew up into it with my sisters and brother, which was a place that really opened my mind even as a child. In my almost two decades-long career I have yet to come across a rumor about my sexuality and for some time it fueled my desire to support the community since it only came off as me being “open-minded and extremely likable.”
The only people who know are my team, my bestfriends and my family.
I just truly hope that one of these days, I still get to do what I love with the same amount of effort and support from my fans despite not being able to tell them the truth of who I am. I love all of you and please please despite not being honest with all of you, please love yourself and be who you are.
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[Optional] What advice would you give this person? Keep it brief.
Reminds me of the lead actor on my own skein.
Lol. For his sake, I’ll remain quiet.
It’s Chris Evans though.
[Optional] I hate this topic. Without fail, whoever is involved has no issue with having a fanbase of men/women and making money off this straight image but then continue on with “I can’t be my true authentic self because Hollywood is the big bad.”
This is the industry they wanted to be in. It’s not some unknown secret that straight is in and LGBT is okay to support but not be. Be your true self or sit there and look pretty while reaping the benefits of being straight.
What a thumb-sucking puddle of self-absorption.
Chris Evans, sounds like not the brightest bulb in the box. If you wanna have sex with men who cares. Your sex life is your business unless it’s illegal or harmful. Then it’s the laws business. So Chris shut up. Save the 30 repetitive narcissistic whiny paragraphs for your therapist.
We support you Cap!
Don’t come out. I don’t mind if we have to date in secret. LOL
If it is Chris Evans, that would explain some of the anxiety and depression he has openly dealt with in the past. I agree that coming out as bi would probably raise his public profile, but it sounds like he might be more bi-curious/sexually-fluid than bi-bi, so coming out might seem like a bit of a publicity stunt. It might be better for him to just explore his sexuality naturally and continue to support LGBTQI causes, then let the chips fall as they may in time.
I am somewhat bemused and confused by his statement! He claims that he became interested in men just a few years ago and that this attraction ‘grew and grew.’Well, this is news to me! Gee, did I suddenly wake up one day and find out that I developed a ‘woody’ for guys! I think he is being disingenuous! Why would a guy making a statement that he only had 3 hookups (gay) and had numerous hookups with women label himself as bisexual? Methinks he has had more than 3 gay encounters, 50% maybe?
Either Evans doesn’t know about his gay rumors (fanned by having gay bro), or this is someone else. And he didn’t take “Stucky” ship seriously.
I’m looking at another MCU Chris: Pratt.
JLaw has done romcoms. Anna is hilarious (divorce not final?)
It always struck me as weird with Offerman’s near homoerotic infatuation when discussing him, and Megan is openly bi. His book even has a cartoon of Nick & Chris “playing” together.
I say, Come on out my Bi Brother! stop the BiM erasure!
I’m sorry, am I on glue?
If this is Chris Evans, then I have some news for him, a lot of people think he is gay (or bi) and think the on/off relationship with Jenny is suspect af.
Amazed at how many people got Chris Evans on this one.
While it would be amazing to have someone with his star power & visibility come out as Bi (being gay certainly hasn’t hurt Ian MacKellen’s career) I can understand his trepidation – Young, handsome, action hero. He might continue to play Captain America, but it might be tough to get another action star role.
Just as a regular guy, I had a hard time coming out beyond my immediate circle. You never know how people are going to respond.
Definitely Chris Evans.
My Advice: just live your best life and do what makes you happiest.
IMO, an artist’s sexual preference doesn’t matter. Just keep entertaining us (and wearing those tights!)
I don’t know why one’s sexuality would hurt their career in Hollywood, I’m honestly more surprised to hear that actors are straight. I’m bisexual, and it was never an issue for me (no turmoil, no anxiety). Not relevant in my career, it was always private. Monogamous for the past 20+ years, married to a man for over 15. I feel very badly for people who can’t risk it, or are afraid to, for their livelihood. Be who you are, but be smart. If your manager says keep it on the DL, do it. For now.
All of them.
Gay siblings and action star gay friendly make me think on Chris Evans which always was pro gay rights and whose brother Scott is openly gay
Is this Chris evans? Action hero as the torch and captain America, and also romatic lead in comedies like what’s your number etc…
I think this person wants to out himself….Sad, Just be you…
Is this Chris Evans??
britney spastic says
Chris Evans fits this blind. If it is he, I wish he could be himself.
This HAS GOT to be Chris Evans.
Chris Evans. No advice. It’s a personal decision to come out.
Awwwww. Clearly Chris Evans, Captain America.
~Captain America colors in picture
~sisters and a brother, American, grew up in the theater, 2-decade-long career, supporter of LGBTQ rights, action-movie actor and romantic lead
Advice: Chris, many people compromise to keep their career going. Because of our world, coming out would damage your career. Come out when you’re 50 and only directing, and try not to feel guilty!
chris evans from captain america!
Stay in there…nobody needs to know your personal business. You are an actor…act!
It’s Chris Evans
Live your best life Chris.
– Has one brother and two sisters (“I do love theater and grew up into it with my sisters and brother”)
– Brother is gay (“having siblings who were gay helped”)
– Career started around 2000, so “nearly two decades”
– Is back together with Jenny Slate, who is a comedian (“Right now, I am dating a charming and hilarious woman”)
– And of course, plays Captain America in multiple films (“I play a character in my most well-known movies that portrays everything an American…
This has got to be Chris Evans!
I debated between him and Chris Pine for this because they both fit in several ways, but unlike Pine who only has one sister, Evans fits this perfectly because he has two sisters and one brother.
My advice for Evans would be to do whatever he wants to do. He’s made millions, is at the top of his game, and has nowhere else to go but down anyway. If coming out tanks his career, then so be it! He’s had a great career, but happiness is more important.
Millions of gay men have their fingers crossed!
My advice would be to do what he feels comfortable with. He doesn’t have to do anything he feels is not right for him as an individual
1st of all- Chris Evans.
Writer mentions sisters & a brother, & also that he has a gay sibling(s). Chris has 2 sisters & 1 brother, who is gay.
He is an action star whose movies are “on trend with what teenagers want to watch”, Captain America, who is obviously “what an American man should be”.
Chris E has been around almost 2 decades, & has indeed been very “open-minded & likeable”..
2nd– I couldn’t advise anyone else what to do, but I think I would rather be out, even if it…
This is 100% Chris Evans – has a gay brother, 2 sisters. Dated Jenny Slate (hilarious girl) plus colors and verbiage totally hint at Captain America.
Advice: Do you, dude.
Chris Evans, no doubt about it
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firefly nights says
Hmmm, this is a tough one. Do what’s in your heart and what you’re comfortable with. If you do choose to come out, who knows? Maybe your audience and fans will surprise you and be extremely supportive. Best of luck!
Stay true to yourself. You don’t have to answer to anyone else.
His brother is gay. He has two sisters. Action star and romantic comedy star.
Advice: Stay proudbof who you are and if you want others to know, then do it. Otherwise, it is no ones business.
American, American, American…we get it, Captain America
Holy crap this made me teary eyed, true or not. You do you, boo. You seem like a good person and I’m not gonna judge your choice of not coming out right now. Whoever you are, come out when the time is right FOR YOU. NO ONE has the right to dictate the choices that you’re making. Your life, your time, your decision. Stay happy and strong!
American, funny girlfriend, super sporty. Don’t know about romantic movies, but he’s definitely in the position to lose a lot by coming out.
This is either Scott Eastwood or Chris Evans… I would put my money on Evans though. He has a known gay brother, Scott Evans. Scott Eastwood’s sister is with someone named Stacey… So…Could be him? Hmmm…
Holy * Chris Evans is that you buddy???? F them! Be you buddy! Good luck!
Clues: ‘American’ mentioned a few times, plays Captain America. Has a gay brother and two sisters and is a big LGBT supporter. Grew up in the theater — his mother is an artistic director for a youth theater. Dating former SNL actor Jenny Slate. Starred in Rom Coms and action films for nearly 20 years.
Chris Evans, he has 2 sisters and a brother, and is a spporter of LGBT rights. His Imdb page has him starting out in 1997. I guess it would explain the troubled relationship these 2 appear to have. I have to agree, stay in the closet, people like to think they have an open mind, but they really don’t. His career would suffer and he would disappoint his fans. Sad to say, but it is true.
I meant his relationship with Jenny Slate seems troubled.
Chris Evans. Does the have 2 sister & his brother is openly gay?
The only thing that disappoints me while reading this..is that means he is still with Jenny Slate. My advice Dump her. I would rather have you come out.
What would coming out as bi have to do with dumping Jenny Slate?
I could see where he would feel this way, especially with his fan base. I couldn’t tell him what to do since it’s such a personal decision that only he can make
Dont come out. If you are not tormented by the feeling of living in pain, in a lie…protect your career. Is a precious part of your life too i assume. You love what you do and you can work on your feelings and relationship without coming out. If someday you break up with this woman and fall in love with a man you can change your mind about being open.
Chris Evans. His brother, Scott Evans, is gay. He should do whatever makes him happy. His fans will continue to support him! I know I will 🙂
This has got to be Chris Evans
He has a gay brother, as well as two sisters
He has dated many actresses over the years and his first movie was about 1997.
I would tell him just to come out. It’s got to be tough to not live your true self. Society is more accepting in 2018.
A year from now, fess up that you wrote this. Explain that guilty feelings of being in the closet was extremely hurtful and you want to be honest with yourself and to REAL fans who will stick with you regardless. Be that A list actor example to demonstrate that you can have a career post-closet. You’re young, handsome and talented, you will recover. Not overnight, but you will recover and in the process, show how hypocritical and homophobic Hollywood really is.
Chris Evans ?
with a twist says
Obviously Chris Evans. Brother Scott is gay and he plays Captain America, who is “everything an American man should be.”
I’m a fan regardless. It would probably be wise to wait until he wraps the Avengers franchise, but then he should consider it.
Actor: Chris Evans?
Hints: He has 2 sisters and a brother (who is gay), he grew up in theater, he’s dating Jenny Slate (comedian), lgbt “ally”, and his most well known roll is Captain America (“especially since I play a character in my most well-known movies that portrays everything an American man should be“.)
Advice: Well, I think he should come out if it’s making feel bad and hurting his relationship. But them again, he is an actor and it could hurt his career. So sad ?
He’s captain America, has two sisters according to wiki and a brother who he went in to drama with and he’s dating Jenny slate ( Hilarious woman) that’s why they broke up maybe and got back together
Has a brother and two sisters, brother is openly gay. Describes having a character that “everything an American man should be”…aka Captain America.
Was going to put his name without checking the rest of the facts, I guess it is him after all!
Nobody owes anyone a detailed explanation of their sexuality. If you’re bi but are “in love” with this actress you’re currently dating (“hilarious” Jenny Slate) you are in no way lying to anyone. You’re already an outspoken ally of the LGBTQ community; being queer yourself doesn’t automatically strengthen that alliance.
IF you and Jenny break up AND you want to be with a specific man, that would be the time to address this issue. Right now, as I see it, it’s not a public issue at all.
When you expressed your sexuality to your close family and friends you left the closet. The only thing you owe to your fans is to provide them with excellent acting skills in any upcoming projects and to be pleasant in meet and greets. People nowadays for some inane reason think they must expose their private lives to the world. The only people who need to know are the ones you are planning on sleeping with. You don’t tell your fans every time you sit down to pee, or rub one out because it’s…