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First of all, I would just like to say that being closeted is the hardest part of being in the spotlight, especially when one is famous for their “looks.”
I am an American film actor and I have been pretty much inside of the fragile wardrobe for some time now…
I wasn’t “gay” or “into men” persay throughout my whole career or life for that matter. Only did I realize a few years ago that my attraction towards men grew and grew over a period of time and from friendly grazes did it turn into something more with malice. I’ve only ever had relations of the romantic sort with men possibly once or twice in my whole life (and its been just as exhilarating with women) and was one of those regretful “one night only” incidents I could never ever speak of again.
Away from that, I am of American descent and an actor and more than anything, I love my job with a passion, so much so that even up until now, I still don’t have the heart to come out despite being one of the few “straight” activists for the community.
The public as far as I’m aware of has made zero rumors of my sexuality, seeing as how I’ve been caught dating quite a lot of women in the span of only a decade. This (I’m not even sure at this point if I should be thankful that the media doesn’t take notice of this) dating “spree” of mine if you must is really genuine and I do feel attraction to women; quite a lot.
With that being said, I never went publicly about my supposed “bisexuality.” And yes, I do believe I am bisexual (I’ve only come to realize it around the mid-2000’s if I recall correctly) and am completely proud of it.
But being proud does not equate committing what is arguably “career suicide.” I never felt like I needed role models in terms of sexuality since I felt extremely comfortable in my own skin and felt zero self-hate with this feeling growing up (my family has been extremely supportive and having siblings who were gay helped), its just that I can’t tell the world about this and risk my life’s work be ruined.
I have starred in a lot of action movies that have been recently on trend with what teenagers love to watch and that further amplifies my guilt. Being a closeted man with a fanbase comprised of women of all ages (possibly due to the fact that I am also a leading man in many romantic comedy’s) and teenagers of both sexes, I feel like it is a responsibility to be an inspiration for these kids to be free and be who they want to be especially since I play a character in my most well-known movies that portrays everything an American man should be.
But in Hollywood, you just can’t pretend like everything will be fine and dandy the moment you come out and start to promote the community to the society. I’d risk losing half of my fanbase and the movies that I’d be offered to if I came out. My manager who is also one of my best buds has always supported me in my personal decisions but has constantly warned me that if I do attempt to come out, sadly, I should do it when my career starts to dwindle and right now my career is at its peak and according to my team, right now (coming out) my “profile” would be extremely boosted but I would most probably lose about 10+ film offers with massive paychecks and big names to boot.
Right now, I am dating a charming and hilarious woman, and I am very much in love with her (and yes, she knows and is fully accepting of it). However, I still can’t come to terms with the fact that I can’t tell the world of my true identity and its been hurting my relationship with her over the past few months.
I’d consider myself someone you would never suspect to have an attraction to men since I grew up in a very sports-oriented family. That being said I do love theater and grew up into it with my sisters and brother, which was a place that really opened my mind even as a child. In my almost two decades-long career I have yet to come across a rumor about my sexuality and for some time it fueled my desire to support the community since it only came off as me being “open-minded and extremely likable.”
The only people who know are my team, my bestfriends and my family.
I just truly hope that one of these days, I still get to do what I love with the same amount of effort and support from my fans despite not being able to tell them the truth of who I am. I love all of you and please please despite not being honest with all of you, please love yourself and be who you are.
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