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Mother In Law Says Get Rid Of The Baby

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[Reddit] Hi everyone. Long time lurker, first post on a throwaway account.

I am a normal human in my twenties. I have a college degree and a job that I love, though it doesn’t pay well. My husband, on the other hand, is the decidedly not normal one in our marriage. He is a rather famous actor. Because of that I’m trying to make this as anonymous as possible.

I’m just at a loss at this point, I don’t know what to do. He and I met through a mutual friend. I fangirled. Outwardly I kept it cool but inwardly- omg. He asked me out on a date and of course I said yes. On our first date he was so nervous that he tripped, crashed into the waiter, and had the entire tray of drinks the waiter was carrying dumped all over him. I stopped fangirling. I made it clear to DH from day 1 that celebrity culture is absolutely terrifying and that while I would deal with it for him, don’t expect me to ever embrace it. As the years went by, that became increasingly clearer. Getting photos of you and your man taken while out doing basic things is weird and invasive. Seeing your “trying not to look at the paparazzi while simultaneously cringing at them” face on gossip blogs. It is an uncomfortable life and I miss privacy.

DHs mom hates me. She has always hated me. She does, however, love an actress he once co starred with. She probably has pictures of them framed from their movie. She constantly makes remarks that I’m not good enough, I’m using him for his fame, I’m not attractive enough, everything. Thankfully the rest of his family loves me and he always shuts her down when she gets going.

Last week we had both our families over for dinner so we could announce some exciting news. I’m four months pregnant. Everyone was congratulating us, hugs and tears. When her voice rings out. “You need to make her get an ab*rtion. She’s going to use this baby to take everything we have.”

Silence. And I turned around and ran to our bedroom and started sobbing. My mom came after me and held me. A while later, DH came in. He told me that he had kicked MIL out and told her that if she won’t be happy for us then she won’t get to be around us. She told him that he would regret this and would see that she’s right eventually. Yesterday FIL came over. Apparently MIL is considering going to various gossip sites and telling them that I cheated on DH with another actor.

I don’t know what to do. It’s just so hard because there’s no one I can talk to. My family is great and they love DH but they didn’t want me to marry him because of the celebrity. I’m scared to talk to other people because sometimes everyone in LA seems like they would sell your drama for a quick buck. Everyone is like aw you’re so lucky to be married to him. In the back of my head I know thousands of people are rooting for us to fail because fans can be rabid about wanting to date their star. I was so excited about our baby and creating a family and now I’m just scared. What if MIL tries to ruin our lives so she can get rid of me? I’ve read accounts of people on this sub with MILs who went flat out batshit and if she goes completely crazy there are people who will pay thousands of dollars to get her crazy on their tabloids.

And I know some of you won’t believe me but I hope enough do that I can get some advice.

BG Note: DH = Dear Husband, MIL = Mother In Law, FIL = Father In Law.

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  1. and how says

    Ansel Elgort has been dating Violetta Komyshan since high school. She is a non famous ballerina.

  2. gossipycat says

    It sounds like her husband supports her and knows how his mom can be, so she should tell him about the rumours MIL is planning to spread. As long as he knows they’re not true, it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. (In theory. I know it would still hurt.) It sounds like her husband loves her and is pretty level-headed so who cares what her nutty MIL thinks.

    Also a therapist is a great idea. Lots of people see them. There’s no shame in it.

  3. jbj2016 says

    She needs to find a therapist or spiritual adviser so that the can vent with the assurance of confidentiality. It would be especially good if they could do it as a couple, but she should also meet with them by herself.

  5. shcubble says

    Josh Brolin and Kathryn Boyd. She’s 30 so probably a slight fudging of the “in her 20s” in order to muddy the details. She has a BA and worked as an assistant so that matches the education plus low paying career details.

    She announced her pregnancy recently and her mother-in-law is probably not over Josh’s divorce from Diane Lane, or maybe just another random actress.

  6. kittenhampers says

    Michael C. Hall got married in 2016 to Morgan MacGregor, who the internet tells me is a book reviewer and writer (the type of career you do because you love, but doesn’t pay very well). She’s 29, and they had been dating since 2012. But MCH’s father notably died young, so for this story to fit his mom would have had to have remarried. So maybe this is way off!

    If it’s them, the movie could be ‘Christine,’ which also starred Rebecca Hall (no relation, but maybe the MIL would like her to…

  7. sherdinana says

    I really think this is Josh Brolin’s wife. She was his assistant when he was married to Diane Lane, then he left Diane for her. This could be why Mother in law could disapprove of her and mother in law could be Barbara Streisand or Josh’s actual mum. But there is lots of family money there and that is all I can think of.

  9. marialayla says

    I think this is Matthew Lewis. He married a fan. She is a lifestyle blogger which I’m sure doesn’t “pay well.” His fanbase is crazy because they’re Harry Potter franchise fans. The other woman is Emma Watson, obviously.

  11. lovesummertime says

    I have a crazy in law too. Luckily my husband supported me. My MIL has an order of protection against him, and he assaulted me at church. He lied about me and my MIL to the family. If your job has an EAP (free counseling sessions) I would contact them. They are trained counselors, and can give you strategies to deal with her. If not, I would find a family counselor. Never let your MIL alone with your child. Heaven knows what she would do. I wish you the best. Don’t let her win!

  12. freckles23 says

    For a second, I thought this was Kate Upton. She JUST announced she was pregnant. But, husband isnt an actor sooo…Not too sure on this one

  13. cologossip says

    Matthew Lewis from Harry Potter and his new wife Angela? She mentions having a career she loves that doesn’t pay super well, and his new wife is an event planner for Universal Studios in Florida. She mentions fangirling and meeting through a mutual friend – they met at Wizarding World of Harry Potter when it opened. No kids (yet). Both in their 20s. Things seem to match up fairly well, plus he has that Harry Potter money.

  15. algarve2016 says

    Find a reputable therapist. A therapist cannot disclose what the client tells them, except to report child abuse, suicidal behavior (not just thoughts, and the therapist would have to justify calling the police, for example), or homicidal behavior (the therapist must report that, must warn the intended victim). You can find safety to discuss this rotten excuse for a human being there. And, there’s no problem with it being held against you. Many people see therapists.

  16. mini.malista4 says

    Celebrity status aside, you are his wife and should be respected. Especially given that you are also, now,going to be the mother of his child.

    Given that it seems she doesn’t care who is around when she voices her opinions- don’t let her be around. Cut her out. Maybe not permanently, but at least for now. You need to focus on yourself and your baby. It’s the healthiest thing for you at this point. Until she apologizes, plan on her not being a part of the baby’s life.

  17. Appleton says

    I have no idea, every time I think of a possible couple they already have a child(ren) or she isn’t in her 20s.
    Honestly, I think she already won half the battle. Her husband stood by her side when his mom disrespected her and the Inlaws like her. She needs to reevaluate her relationship with the public though because it seems she has some insecurities that could lead to problems later on. It won’t be healthy to keep those doubts to herself especially if her MIL does end up selling cheating…

  19. NYC212 says

    Oh no. Based in a few of the things on this post and the similar blind item this reeks of sparkles Meghan Markle. I doubt it she’s 4 months preggers but wouldn’t put it past her. The obvious moron is Harry. This won’t end well. What starts off bad end up bad.

    • MikeInSanJose says

      “My husband, on the other hand, is the decidedly not normal one in our marriage. He is a rather famous actor. ”

      Harry’s not an actor, and his mother is dead. I guess Camilla could be MIL, but other pieces don’t fit…

    • kcphilly says

      Except Harry is not an actor, nor is he a moron IMO.
      Meghan didn’t have a “normal” job before meeting Harry,
      And Camilia isn’t Harry’s mother and if she threatened to go to the tabs she’d be in a lot of trouble herself.

  20. pflower says

    No idea on who this is, but that MIL is deranged and she should be kept away from your family and especially from the new baby, you don’t need that kind of negativity in your life. MIL will just damage her own son’s career by talking to the media, let DH deal with her, you stay far from that crazy b*

  21. dahlia202049 says

    Oh Lindsay…I’m so sorry you’re involved in this….wait no, I’m not. Girl WTF DID YOU EXPECT?!?! Yeah his mom is really rooting for y’all ? stop.

  22. Sharper_Teeth says

    Rough. I would think that would be a bridge too far for mom and son. I mean, a totally burnt bridge. Hopefully she doesn’t go through with her threats. Bad decision for everyone involved.

  23. libby480 says

    I can only think of Aaron Paul, but he and his wife have had a baby–unless this item was published last year?

    • Renee2 says

      That’s who I thought of as well except their baby is already born. Ironically she produced a documentary on girl-on-girl bullying.

  24. Parade says

    Mothers comment says it all; “she’s going to take everything we have”. We? I’d shun the mother.

    • alwaystired says

      This is a really good guess. The mother’s “We” comment made me think it might be someone who started as a child/ teen actor.

    • alwaystired says

      The related item is about the Royals… Lewis is British. And the pic is brown haired guy and a blonde girl. I think you nailed this one.

    • hvp5ss says

      I can see why you’d think it’s them. MIL maybe didn’t like that she left a husband to be with Matt. But unless she is embellishing (they haven’t been together that long), omitting things (like the dumped husband), or outright lying (how they met) then it doesn’t work.
      Matthew certainly has his fangirls. He’s cute and I love his character, but honestly his personality needs work.
      And now, the more I think about it, the more I think you’re right!

    • bluthbananas says

      I tooootally get a Matthew Lewis vibe from this too, but blind mentioned pictures framed “from their movie,” which would hint that it maybe wasn’t a franchise?

      My guess –

      Actor: Matthew Lewis
      Actress from film MIL liked: Emilia Clarke (“Me Before You”)

    • PomegranatePam says

      I like this guess. One site said she was still legally married for 6 months after meeting him, so that would explain the mom’s initial dislike for her. But demanding her grandchild be aborted is awful. I don’t understand when family members suggest that. Assuming the child is born, everyone is going to remember that s\he wouldn’t be alive if Grandma had her way.

    • krak13 says

      They just got married this year – and no one outside of the UK or HP geeks really knows who he is.

    • wfreshie says

      interesting guess but he and his wife just got married this year..the blind made it sound like they have been together for years….also she talked about los angeles…but….they could live in new york or something and she just used los angeles to make the identy harder

    • Appleton says

      I thought it might be him and then stupid me thought they were still living in London until I looked up her blog and wouldn’t you know it, they live in LA. After reading a few posts this one matches her writing. So if this is the couple then that means she was pregnant when they got married so her MIL can just go f*** off because wifey is staying.

    • secretginger says

      I think it’s them too. Even though he’s not super famous, it seems like franchise actors have a rabid fanbase. He posted a picture of her in a bikini like a month ago, and she didn’t look pregnant, but if she was just 3 months she may have not been showing.

  26. Annaliese says

    Have no idea who this is, but very sad! Sounds like husband put mama in her place. Hope she has the baby and keeps MIL away. Being a grandparent should be a privilege and not a right.

  27. bubbasbbq says

    The husband seems like a decent enough sort. I would Tell MiL that if she ever tried to pull a stunt like that, not only would she be permanently cut off from EVERYTHING and to top it all off, I would go so low to trash her beyond the bounds of decency. And I would do it publicly. Like she was the source of that slanderous rabble. MiL sounds like a psycho and as much as she is his mother, she is the fukashima reactor waking to melt down.

  28. MommyPalooza says

    No idea on the actor but this is terrible. My MIL is completely nutso and has taken us to court, all kinds of shtuff. I can’t imagine going through that in public.

  29. ashleyb234 says

    I’m not sure who this is about but it made me sick. The actor has to put his foot down and tell his mother about herself QUICK or else the wife should leave him! There’s no reason why the mom should feel comfortable saying that in front of everyone or at all. The daughter in law has to start putting the mother in law in her place, even get disrespectful if she has to or else she won’t ever see her grandchild, period!

  30. Hunnybunz says

    Wow. Don’t have a clue but wow I honestly feel like mil should mind their business about your marriage but like that old saying goes ‘Mama Knows Best’

  31. Sandy24 says

    DH or MIL: no idea
    Advice: It doesn’t matter who isn’t supportive EXCEPT for your husband. In the end it’s HIS behavior that will determine if your growing family has a shot. If he loves you and wants this to work he needs to sit her down and read her the riot act. So far his behavior has been promising. If she does not respect your family and is going to say these abusive things then she is the one that should be left out as she will eventually say these things to the kids! MIL needs to go!

  32. aaaluxie says

    Not sure who they are….but….
    If a relationship is toxic-it’s toxic. Doesn’t matter if it’s family, friends, or coworkers. Her husband needs to set boundaries with his mom and if she doesn’t respect those boundaries then she needs to go. period. We shouldn’t have to live our lives around toxic people. Life is too short.

  33. carrieva9 says

    I have no idea who this could be, but to the wife: GET YOUR OWN LAWYER(S)!!!!!!!!!! This sounds like an awful situation so it would be best if you had a “team” that was 100% for you, not your marriage.

    I really would like to know who wrote this aka who the DH is….

    • Tiffaniecompany says

      Agreed. MIL thinks this is a game. Start suing for slander and beat them at their own game.

  35. cicerina says

    I haven’t a clue who you are but you’re about to bring a child into this world and into this unhealthy situation. Your husband needs to man up and once and for all need to stand up for his wife and (unborn) child. His mother loves the celebrity lifestyle and thinks he is less Hollywood because he married you and not Julia Roberts.
    Please try not to stress through your pregnancy. Not good for the baby. You also have to make a decision if you stay with your husband or not. Wish you all the bes

  36. BetteBoo25 says

    They’ve been married for years. He & the rest of his fam + hers are supportive. Why exactly is she so terrified?

    Could be she’s trying to get ahead of something. Like a paternity test. Maybe MIL is on to something.

    • cherylp says

      That’s pretty presumptuous to assume that maybe she has something to fear because she’s not innocent. I think anyone, especially someone who is pregnant, would not want their marriage to be scrutinized in gossip magazines and now the MIL wants to add more fuel to the fire. That kind of stress alone will cause stress within a relationship and it’s not healthy for the baby. The fact that his mother is even planning this shows that she’s toxic and needs to be cut out of their lives.

    • suzyQ888 says

      I got that vibe too, though. She says MIL is threatening to go to the press to say that she cheated on DH with another actor….but doesn’t once deny it. Seems shady.

  37. smoresnmore says

    I’m pretty stumped on this one.
    So, a male celebrity with a wife in her twenties who don’t yet have children.
    They’ve been together for ‘years’, plural, so it’s probably fair to assume she is in her mid – late twenties depending on when they met.

    She’s been seen in paparazzi pictures before, so her name is likely somewhat known to us. Going by her comments on the reddit thread, he has a fairly lively, primarily female fanbase, a few fans of which are known to be rabid.
    A franchise maybe?

  38. jonesing says

    No idea who the actor is-an approx. age would have helped but I understand why she didn’t give one.
    The good news for the wife is that the husband stood up for her. There are a lot of husbands who cave under mommy’s withering glance let alone words.

    • Tequila Mama says

      Totally agree with you. I dated a guy who let his mother come between us. She was so nasty to me and he not once stood up to her or defended me. So glad that evil b* isn’t in my life anymore.

  39. KatarinaJ says

    I don’t know who this is but to the author this IS your life. You will have to endure celebrity and scrutiny if you love him. Instead of focusing on the negative think about the upside, the fact you can work a job you love/don’t make a fortune at and still have a wonderful save lifestyle for you and your baby – education, etc. This is just one bad thing, the celebrity, let your MIL run with whatever. Just ignore as much as you can. It sounds like you are obsessing and ruining your own…