[Blind Gossip] There is a serious mental illness called Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
The Mayo Clinic says that DSM-5 criteria for narcissistic personality disorder include these features:
- Having an exaggerated sense of self-importance
- Expecting to be recognized as superior even without achievements that warrant it
- Exaggerating your achievements and talents
- Being preoccupied with fantasies about success, power, brilliance, beauty or the perfect mate
- Believing that you are superior and can only be understood by or associate with equally special people
- Requiring constant admiration
- Having a sense of entitlement
- Expecting special favors and unquestioning compliance with your expectations
- Taking advantage of others to get what you want
- Having an inability or unwillingness to recognize the needs and feelings of others
- Being envious of others and believing others envy you
- Behaving in an arrogant or haughty manner
NPD affects approximately 6% of the population, men more than women, blacks more than whites.
Here is some additional information about NPD from WebMD:
It’s human nature to be selfish and boastful now and then, but true narcissists take it to an extreme. They don’t just have extra self-confidence, they don’t value others’ feelings or ideas and ignore others’ needs.
But there’s a difference between being self-absorbed, often called a narcissist, and having narcissistic personality disorder, which is a mental illness.
If you can recognize a few of the traits below, that’s someone who’s self-absorbed. If he has most of them, he might have the disorder.
- Think about himself most of the time and talk about himself a lot
- Crave attention and admiration
- Exaggerate his talents and achievements
- Believe he’s special
- Set unrealistic goals
- Have wide, fast mood swings
- Have a hard time taking others’ feelings seriously
- Strive to win, whatever it takes
- Fantasize about unlimited success, money, and power
Sound like someone you know? Are people often upset with him? Is it hard for him to keep relationships? Does he tend put himself first and think he knows the only “right” way?
Someone like this may appear to have high self-esteem, but the opposite is probably true. There’s a deep sense of insecurity underneath that grand exterior. He wants others to be envious, but often he’s the jealous one. He’s competitive and threatened by others’ achievements.
He’s easily hurt, but either chooses to not show it or overreacts in rage. He can’t stand criticism. He sees himself as a natural leader who can easily sway others. He doesn’t listen and often interrupts. It’s a one-way street — all take, no give.
Parents who put their children on a pedestal and shower them with endless praise can plant a seed of narcissism. There’s a line between being nurturing and supportive and inflating an ego.
Name any of the following who may have NPD: a world leader, a Presidential Candidate, a male rapper, and a male actor.
[Optional] Do you personally know anyone with NPD? How do you deal with them?