[Blind Gossip] This movie star really regretted the chaos that he caused in his household.
When his actress wife filed for divorce, he spent fifteen minutes being even more irresponsible and out of control… before deciding that he didn’t really want a divorce.
She wasn’t quick to take him back, though. In fact, she set four conditions for his return.
He had to stop drinking. He had to stop doing drugs. He had to stop cheating on her. He had to be a better, happier, more engaged father to the kids.
If he did ALL of those things, he could move back home, they could stay married, and they could even add to their family (She really did want one more child).
He struggled with all four. Actually, he tried and failed on the first three multiple times, and could barely muster up the energy to do much about the fourth.
And that’s why he’s so depressed.
Similar: All The Old Habits
[Optional] Do you think she should give him more time or another chance?
Actor: Ben Affleck
Actress: Jennifer Garner
Two down… two to go!
Actor Ben Affleck just disclosed that he has completed a stint in rehab.
Blind Gossip told you back in 2014 (see All The Old Habits) that Ben Affleck had slipped back into all the problems that had nearly destroyed him before.
Jennifer Garner was wise to split up with Ben over those transgressions, but still keep him close for the sake of the children and to serve as a grounding and supportive force.
You really have to give Jennifer Garner kudos for how she has handled herself through all of this. It was really the complete opposite of the Brad and Angelina split. Jen didn’t take the kids from Ben or trash him or try to get other people to hate him. She just laid down the rules and stuck by them. She did her job, raised her kids, and continued to try to encourage Ben to move in the right direction.
Just because Ben remained physically close to the family didn’t mean that they were together.
While everyone else was reporting that Ben and Jen were definitely back together – or that they were definitely divorcing – Blind Gossip was telling you the more complex truth.
Jen was not taking Ben back, but she was not giving up on him, either. She gave him four conditions that he needed to meet before she would even consider taking him back.
He’s now completed rehab. That will check off two of the four conditions set for him by Jennifer Garner. That is definitely a step in the right direction.
Ben Affleck Says He Recently Completed Rehab Stint for Alcohol Addiction
Ben Affleck revealed, in a Facebook post on Tuesday, that he recently completed a stint in rehab for alcohol addiction.
“I have completed treatment for alcohol addiction; something I’ve dealt with in the past and will continue to confront,” he wrote on Facebook. Affleck checked himself into rehab in 2001 as well.
“I want to live life to the fullest and be the best father I can be. I want my kids to know there is no shame in getting help when you need it, and to be a source of strength for anyone out there who needs help but is afraid to take the first step,” he continued. “I’m lucky to have the love of my family and friends, including my co-parent, Jen, who has supported me and cared for our kids as I’ve done the work I set out to do. This was the first of many steps being taken towards a positive recovery.”
Since he has completed rehab, there was really no need for him to disclose that it was for drugs as well as alcohol.
Interesting that he calls Jen “my co-parent” instead of “my wife” or “my ex-wife.” It’s a little awkward, and it demonstrates that their marriage is not repaired, but it does show that he recognizes her support.
Well done, Ben AND Jen! We wish Ben well in his recovery.
Napoleon was first with the correct response!
Related: All The Old Habits
And…. that’s the ball game!
Just a few short weeks after Ben Affleck emerged from rehab, the couple has filed for divorce. From People:
Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner Officially File for Divorce: ‘It Was Just Time,’ Says Source
Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck have filed for divorce nearly two years after the couple originally announced their split, PEOPLE confirms.
Garner and Affleck filed the docs together and they are both seeking joint legal and physical custody of their three kids. The date of separation, as well as the division of property and any spousal support, is still to be determined.
The former couple filed mirror-image paperwork and they each filed “in propria persona” — which means without an on-the-record attorney. Both Affleck and Garner noted that they will keep any earnings they made since they separated, so the separation date they determine could affect the settlement. They announced their split on June 30, 2015.
A source tells People the filing is “super amicable.”
After completing rehab for alcohol addiction earlier this month, Affleck has been enjoying spending time with the kids. In fact, the morning after he announced he had completed rehab, things were business as usual as he was spotted taking his kids to school with Garner. A source told PEOPLE that the actor is relishing time with his children.
“Ben is spending special time with all the kids separately,” the source said. “He seems very happy. The mood in general seems very upbeat. The kids are thrilled that he is back.”
This divorce will NOT have the drama and chaos of the Jolie-Pitt divorce!
Why? Because no matter how out-of-control Affleck got, Garner kept it together.
Garner always carried herself with dignity in public, never bad-mouthed Ben, never ratted him out to the tabloids, never created a scene.
She did that because she cares more about their kids than about any petty vengeance. She is very determined to have their newly clean and sober father be an active part of her kids’ lives.
However, we will say low-drama is not the same as “super amicable.” “Super-amicable” is a bit of a stretch. Why? Because although Garner really, really wanted Affleck to meet the four conditions we discussed… he only succeeded in meeting three.
We’ll leave it at that.
We wish them a peaceful divorce.