Jenette McCurdy Hates You

jenette mccurdy[Blind Gossip] Actress and singer Jenette McCurdy stars on the Nickelodeon TV show Sam & Cat. She just wrote a lengthy post about a “fake friend” and why she was dropping the friendship.

From Jenettte McCurdy’s Twitter account and TwitLonger:

jenette mccurdy tweetI actually wrote something about the topic of fake friends a while back but it was never published! Here it is, my dear…

Letting Go of Someone

The title of this article sounds like I’m writing about coping with the death of a loved one. Rest assured, it won’t be that morbid. Sorry I’m bad at naming things…

This article is about knowing when to let go of a bad “friendship.” There seem to be a lot of articles floating around the web right now that provide tips for ditching this ambiguous “trouble friend”, so I wanted to provide my take on the matter, with a very personal example.

I had this “friend”. We had fun together in the first few months of our friendship. We ate at cool restaurants that she wanted to eat at, went to fun amusement parks and rode the rides she wanted to ride, and had sleepovers every couple of weeks where we would watch movies she wanted to watch. I enjoyed her company because she was fun and energetic, but I had some reservations about how much I could trust her because she seemed to be a leech for drama and gossip. I decided the good outweighed the bad, so I continued hanging out with her for a few months until our friendship slowly fizzled out.

Fast forward to a year or so later and we were back on the map as friends. Not those first tier friends who tell each other everything and who would jump in front of a bus for each other, but solid second tier friends I would say. I’m not even sure how we fell back into being friends. It just sort of… happened.

Before I know it, we were back to hanging out… doing exactly what this girl wanted to do. I felt like every time I hung out with her I was in quicksand. Being around her took my identity because everything in her world became just that… “Her world”. It was really starting to bug me. I took a step back and was met with questions from her end: “Why aren’t we better friends?” “What happened to our friendship?” “Where did you go?” “Did I do something wrong?”

Well, (insert name here), here are the answers to your questions…

We aren’t better friends because being friends with you takes the “better” out of me. In fact, I might possibly be the worst version of myself when I’m around you.

As for what happened to our friendship, it faded once through happenstance and it is happening this time through my stance. I’m standing up for myself. I’m not playing your games, letting you manipulate me, and succumbing to your twisted perception of reality.

Where did I go? As far away from you as I can get. You won’t be hearing from me anymore because sweetheart, being a friend to you was doing so much more for you than it was doing for me. You sucked the life right out of me, and I want my life back.

Did you do something wrong? Yes and no. I’m not sure whether you intentionally did something wrong or not, because I have always been a little unclear on what exactly your intentions are. But you did do something wrong in the way you did not treat me right. You disrespected me, disregarded me, and made me feel small by having to always make yourself seem so big.

So for these sincere reasons, I am officially dropping you as a friend. If I see you, I won’t turn the other way and run (even though I want to). Instead, I’ll just smile and end the conversation as quickly as possible, because no offense, but I don’t want any of you rubbing off on me. Actually, that’s pretty offensive. Oh well.

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Comments

  1. kat411 says

    My guess is that this isn’t a famous friend.

    Good for Jenette for sticking up for herself! I’m going to make sure my teen daughter reads her letter.

    • redstilettos says

      Agree. I had some of those ‘friendships’ in high school. Life was MUCH better once I got rid of those types of ‘friends.’

    • LooLoo says

      It actually sounds like she’s a spoiled girl who has always gotten all of the attention and praise, and she had a friend who didn’t want to be told what to do all the time and she couldn’t handle that. Rather than be friends as equals, she is going to shut off the friendship. I would never call my daughter’s attention to something like this.

      • wendy hood says

        Ariana and McCurdy have the same bday one year apart. If one wants to act superior to the other and the will ALWAYS has to bend Ariana’s (or whoever else’s) way, then yeah, one of them should check out. Inform your daughter to avoid being a constant follower.

  2. cali says

    I don’t know who she hangs out with so I’ll go with Ariana Grande. I know they don’t get along.

  3. Mixtape says

    Wow, this is very well-written for someone her age. I volunteer with teen girls and a common problem for girls with low self esteem is to end up in these toxic “friendships” with a drama queen who just wants hangers-on. I think reading something like this from a person they admire would really help.

    That said, I know nothing about Jeanette and her friends, but I do worry everyone will guess it is Ariana Grande unless she states otherwise.

    • tenderbeef says

      I agree with you that it is very well written. Good for her! Not everyone in Hollywood is a dope.

    • cjane says

      I really like this girl. I don’t think she’s writing about Ariana. Someone upthread guessed the letter might be someone not famous, and that sounds likely to me.

    • LooLoo says

      She’s an adult. I don’t think it’s Poe or anything. Should we be so shocked when an adult woman can form full sentences?

      • TracieKnits says

        Well it’s shocking that someone who spent her teen years working as an actress also managed to get a decent education.

  4. Revisionist says

    Maybe you should start a Blind Gossip Junior to deal with all these Disney/Nick nobodies

    • crazycatlady says

      This made me lol. I agree, Revisionist.

      She’s calling out her friend for being a drama queen, but the friend isn’t the one who wrote this on Twitter for everyone to read. Why not just email the girl privately or say it to her face if she really needed to tell her this?

      Yeah, it’s good she realized it was an unhealthy friendship, but did she really need to call attention to herself just to make the ex-friend look bad? It actually did the reverse.

      • apeygirl says

        Yeah. As much as I’ve had this “friend” a few times, not having said this to their face makes her part of the problem. I’m not saying you can change people, but saying this kind of thing straight-up goes farther toward making that person look at him/herself than writing anonymous grudge posts. If she’d left out the last two paragraphs, I might see this differently.

        Also, I’m not sure how much I trust Jenette’s judgment after all the drama that went down over her dating that man twice her age and posting underwear selfies. I don’t even watch her stuff and I knew about it! You really need to watch your step when your main fanbase is kids/tweens.

  5. ritzee says

    I might not be looking too far but Ariana Grande? They seemed kind of close at first but not anymore and there’s always been rumors of a feud. That’s the only person I can think of.

  6. JaneDawson says

    Friend: the b*tch everyone has drama with Ariana Grande. Selena Gomez, that boy group, Victoria Justice, The Wanted, now Jeanette.

  7. missmissy says

    Is this even a celebrity? Most of those she is linked to in photos at least either seem like very casual friends (or co-workers), have little drama, or non-celebs. I have a hard time believing that she and Ariana Grande are really close. Miranda Cosgrove has no drama to speak of…

    My guess is it is someone who isn’t famous.

    She should have kept this to herself. Far to much public sharing these days. Everyone has had a friendship like this, but it doesn’t give her good publicity to make a public airing of it. Discretion is dead in the age of the internet it seems (or maybe I am an old fogey – who is not that old actually).

  8. JenJenJen says

    Ariana Grande is the only name I have but not sure because at the end, McCurdy says “If i see you….” and if they film their show again obviously she will.

  9. RebellionTruth says

    This screams Ariana Grande… She seems so fake and desperate for attention. Also, there were A LOT of rumors about their bad relationship.

  10. BRUSHFIRE97 says

    I have no clue who she is referring too, however she seems to have a pretty good head on her shoulders. When you have toxic people in your life sometimes you have to cut them out. I am glad she understands that and is eloquently verbalizing it. Kudos to her!!

  11. PinkG says

    Meh. Does anyone really buy the crap these idiots are selling? Nothing here to see, just looking for attention.

  12. AR09 says

    She’s so annoying. If anything she was probably rubbing off on the other person. Thinks ways too highly of herself. I think this might be about Ariana Grande.

  13. Lyrics and Chords says

    Friend:Selina Gomez

    I think she forgot to mention we did all the dr*gs you liked to do and we had threesomes with the guys you wanted us to f*ck

    • AR09 says

      They were not friends. Selena was in another network, and I highly doubt that every blind is Selena. Love her or hate her she is definitely not one to be promiscuous so your comment was out of place. It makes sense that this is Ariana. Mainly because this girl, Jenette, is pressed for publicity. If this was about a regular person she wouldn’t have blasted it in social media, she obviously did it for attention.

  14. CarrieMaRe says

    “…made me feel small by having to always make yourself seem so BIG.” Grande is Spanish for “big”. Couldn’t care less about either of these Bs, but I found this clue.

  15. silverhairedfox says

    Sounds like everyone wants it to be Ariana Grande. She is one of those self righteous PETA jerks. That alone is why I won’t listen to her music. But can we be sure it’s her?
    (No problem with Vegans in general, just the self righteous ones).

  16. AuntieMama says

    Ariana? She’s been hella busy though. I’ve never known them to be close like that but this Jennette has a lot of growing up to do. You handle your business in private with the other person who may not even realize your unhappiness. Putting this, like her previous rants on twitter seems like a PR stunt.

  17. KatarinaJ says

    I think the one facet of this that is ridiculous is that OBVIOUSLY this girl doesn’t know how she is or she wouldn’t legit be asking what happened to us? Why aren’t we better friends? Did i do something wrong? If you were manipulating someone, would you really ask these questions? NO. Because you wouldn’t want to hear the answers, would you? This was the perfect pop for you, Jenette, to be the bigger person and kindly point out your concerns or grievances. Yes, this girl sounded awful but by the time I finished reading your post, I felt like you were the immature one.

  18. silverhairedfox says

    It could be that the un friend was making very public negative statements about her. For some people, speaking out in public is therapy. Even if it makes others uncomfortable.

  19. ana27 says

    Wow just looked both them up on IMDB and they have the same birthday!! Just a year apart

  20. MademoiselleRose says

    I don’t know this girl, but on reading this, I like her. Good on her for having a strong sense of self and to stand up for herself.

    • KatarinaJ says

      Then couldn’t she have emailed this TO the girl instead of posting it all on twitter for the world to read? Great to have a sense of self but there is something very passive aggressive about NOT telling this other girl yet telling the whole world for her to hear.

  21. LarryShipper06 says

    Ariana Grande, the clue being the mention of the show Sam & Cat, in which Ariana and Jenette co-star in. The mention could’ve been iCarly, which is a more popular show

  22. robert3242 says

    A fairly decent analysis of her situation and what to do about it. McCurdy comes across as very childlike on Twitter, it surprised me that she’s actually mature enough to have reached the conclusion she did, and to have written about it as clearly as she did.

  23. FairyMay9 says

    I honestly think this was completely immature. I’m sure Ariana or whomever it is deserved the diatribe. But I really don’t get the whole concept of calling her out in public like this. What, it wouldn’t be effective in private? She has to be passive/aggressive to make it authentic? Sorry, I’m not giving this girl the admiration for this tweet that so many folks seem to wanna lay upon her. Little girl needs to grow up as much as the object of her rant. Sorry.

  24. nycmary says

    I believe it’s Amanda Cosgrove….but, there is sure to be two sides to this story. This posts screams of insecurity!

  25. Minderella says

    You guys are probably right with the Ariana Grande guess. She does seem very self-involved, but I’m going to guess that this is Taylor Swift.