Gay Football Player May Come Out

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[Blind Gossip] A professional football player is thinking of coming out of the closet. If it happens, this would be the first time that an active player in a major American sport has acknowledged that he is gay.

According to Mike Freeman of CBS Sports – who was the first to break the story – the announcement could take place any day now:

Some believe atmosphere is safe for gay NFL player to come out

Former NFL player Scott Fujita has seen enough. He’s tired of the bigotry. He wants it to end. He’s not alone.

Players like Fujita, along with a coalition of current and former NFL players, and NFL team owners, a music mogul and others, are working diligently to create a safe atmosphere for the day history will happen: when an openly gay man will be a member of an NFL club. People like Fujita — brave people — are attempting to make the issue a non-issue for when that day comes.

And there are serious indications that day may come sooner than later. While I’ve long believed I would not see an openly gay NFL player for decades, that might be wrong.

Based on interviews over the past several weeks with current and former players, I’m told that a current gay NFL player is strongly considering coming out publicly within the next few months — and after doing so, the player would attempt to continue his career.

I’m told this player feels the time is now for someone to take this step — despite homophobic remarks from San Francisco 49ers defensive back Chris Culliver and the controversy arising recently at the Indianapolis Scouting combine, when prospects were asked questions about their sexuality.

This player’s true concern, I’m told, is not the reaction inside an NFL locker room but outside of it. The player fears he will suffer serious harm from homophobic fans, and that is the only thing preventing him from coming out. My sources will not say who this alleged player is.

There has never been an active openly gay player in a major American team sport, but the information I’ve gathered on the player in question comes from several current and former players.

Based on interviews over the past several weeks with current and former players, I’m told that a current gay NFL player is strongly considering coming out publicly within the next few months — and after doing so, the player would attempt to continue his career.

How do you think the announcement will be received by teammates and fans?

scott fujitaUPDATE!

Approximately six months ago, this story generated a lot of attention. Then, nothing.

However, while nothing was happening publicly, there was a lot happening privately. One reporter from Bleacher Report has followed up on the story to discuss what was going on behind the scenes.

From Bleacher Report:

The Inside Story of How the NFL’s Plan for Its 1st Openly Gay Player Fell Apart

The team had decided yes. The player had decided the same. It was set. It was going to happen. An NFL player was going to publicly say he was gay and then play in the NFL.

What happened before that moment showed how parts of the NFL are progressive and ready for change. Then, what happened next showed how the sport is still in some ways fearful of it.

The following account is based on interviews with approximately a dozen people, including team and league officials, current and former players, and gay-rights advocates. Some were directly involved with the discussions that nearly led to the first openly gay NFL player. Further illustrating the intense secrecy, delicacy and fear surrounding the subject, none of the principals wanted to be identified. They also refused to identify the team or the player.

It was early this past spring when a closeted gay player, who was a free agent, reached out to a small group of friends and told them about his sexual orientation. The friends, both current and former players, and others with NFL connections, then contacted a handful of teams to gauge their interest in the player and their comfort with that player talking openly about being gay if they signed him.

A number of teams contacted passed. The player was told they didn’t have a need at his position. The player told a recently retired player he believed the teams declined because they feared the attention a gay NFL player would receive from the public and media.

Yet some teams were interested, and one team actually said yes. It wasn’t a lukewarm yes or a conditional one. It was a definite yes.

The team expressed that it didn’t care if the player was gay and had no issue with him announcing he was gay after signing. The player expected the signing, and subsequent announcement, to happen in June. This would give the team, fans and media a month to adjust to the news before training camp began.

It was during these talks with the team, occurring in late March and early April, that reports surfaced about the possibility of an openly gay player emerging. In effect, word of the impending signing was leaking. I reported a player was strongly considering coming out. My reporting was based on speaking to several NFL players. Word of an openly gay player signing was spreading among a portion of the player base.

Gay-rights advocate and former Baltimore Raven Brendon Ayanbadejo said in April that he believed several gay players might come out. He later backed away from the number of players but stood by his statement that a gay player would soon emerge onto the NFL stage.brendon ayanbadejo

Outspoken gay-rights advocate Brendon Ayanbadejo is not as confident as he once was about how soon there will be an openly gay NFL player.

Some months later, it’s possible Ayanbadejo may have been right. The feeling now among team officials, as well as current and former players, is that there wasn’t just one gay player ready to shed his secret, but multiple ones.

“I don’t know how close we are,” Ayanbadejo said to Bleacher Report in regard to having an openly gay player. “I just know there are gays in the NFL but their identities remain confidential.”

The sources paint a remarkable picture. At least two or three gay players, each unaware of the other, living in different parts of the country, with different sets of friends and agents, each contemplating the same thing: coming out.

That period was, as one gay-rights advocate described it, “the spring of optimism for the NFL and gay rights.” There was a feeling that the NFL was on the verge of crossing this significant barrier. There was great excitement. It was going to happen.

Until it didn’t.

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The question now is: What happened?

In considering possible answers, it’s important to know five things.

First: Estimates of how many gay players are in the NFL range widely, but some of them, from people intimately familiar with the league, are far higher than might be assumed by the outside public.

Players and team executives give totals ranging from several dozen to several hundred. (There are about 2,000 players in the league.) One former general manager said he believes the number of gay players is 30-40.

Second: The NFL and union know the identities of some gay players, according to many sources—a gay-rights advocate, a union official and a team official. The league and union learn who these players are from other players and coaches. They keep the identities of these players secret. In some cases, teams do so to protect the players. In many cases, teams learn the identities to avoid signing them as free agents.

Third: The league office backs the idea of an openly gay player, but one high-ranking league official believes the NFL isn’t yet ready for one. League executives think football is three to five years away from accepting such a player, according to an NFL source. The league plans to carefully and deliberately make the atmosphere more tolerant and comfortable in the meantime, setting the stage for when that happens.

The NFL actually wants an openly gay player because it would be one of the last barriers broken in the sport and show professional football as a tolerant sport. And not everyone thinks the league needs to wait. Another league-office executive said the NFL is ready now. “We are prepared,” he stated. “The league would give the player and his team all the support necessary.”

In response to this story the NFL issued a statement saying all players are protected by the NFL’s Personal Conduct Policy. A manual given to every player during training camp includes language about violent or threatening behavior between employees inside and outside of the workplace. It includes documents relating to sexual harassment and sexual orientation.

Fourth: Some individual franchises, however, are not as enthusiastic about the prospect as the league office seems to be. Several team officials say the largest obstacle to an openly gay player is the resistance of a significant number of NFL owners and a smaller number of general managers and coaches.

Fifth: Many in the league are fearful of acting or even speaking on this subject. Quite simply, teams remain terrified of signing an openly gay player.

One team official gave an example of why there is such fear. He posed a question: What if a gay player came out in a place like the Dolphins locker room, where there was allegedly severe hazing?

Some stories out of the last NFL combine indicated teams are worried. Nick Kasa, a prospective pro out of the University of Colorado, told ESPN Radio in Denver earlier this year that during interviews with team officials at the combine in Indianapolis: “(Teams) ask you, like, ‘Do you have a girlfriend?’ ‘Are you married?’ ‘Do you like girls?’” Big-name players like Michigan’s Denard Robinson and Michigan State’s Le’Veon Bell indicated in radio interviews that they were asked similar questions. The assumption was that the questions were some form of standard operating procedure not tied to the particular interviewees.

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Chris Culliver’s homophobic remarks in advance of the Super Bowl this year offered a glimpse at the reception an out player might get.

During media day before this past Super Bowl, 49ers defensive back Chris Culliver said, “I don’t do the gay guys, man. I don’t do that. Got no gay people on the team. They gotta get up outta here if they do. Can’t be with that sweet stuff…Can’t be…in the locker room, nah. You’ve gotta come out 10 years later after that.”

It’s this fear of gays that helps explain why many in the NFL are nervous about addressing the issue on the record. Some sources feel that talking openly about gay issues will label them as being part of the gay-player discussion and harm them in their current positions across the sport.

Still, some players strongly believe an openly gay player would be welcome in an NFL locker room.

“Players, in general, don’t care what other players do in the bedroom,” Arizona kicker Jay Feely, who is in his 13th season and has been a longtime union representative, told Bleacher Report. “Whether that is being celibate, having an affair, being happily married for 20 years or being gay. No one cares. The only thing they care about is winning games (and getting paid). That’s the honest truth.

“This story is not about football or locker rooms but outside factors and agendas that are using football as the carrot to attract attention for their own personal gain.”

To others, both in football and out of it, an openly gay NFL player would be a monumental moment, signaling that yet another barrier has fallen not just in sports, but all of society.

***

This past spring, it seemed imminent that barrier was going to collapse with not one, but two players having found teams that would sign them knowing they would come out.

Along with the initial player discussed in this article, there was a fairly well-known defensive back. He drew interest from at least one AFC team that knew he was gay. Coaches on the team were asked if they were OK with a gay player. They were. Some defensive players were casually queried, according to an official on the team. All of the players asked said it wouldn’t be an issue. They were not told the name of the player.

According to the team, the potential deal collapsed when the player wanted too much money. If that was the case—and there is doubt about that among gay-rights advocates—it stands apart from everything else league insiders are saying about an NFL which they know includes many gay players and not a single one who will publicly acknowledge he’s gay.

The first player, the one who expected to sign in June, heard in mid-to-late May from the interested team that it would no longer be signing him, officials from other teams told Bleacher Report. The player was told the reason why was fear of intense media coverage.

It was at the end of April that NBA player Jason Collins wrote a first-person story for Sports Illustrated in which he stated he was gay. The story became one of the most discussed in recent sports history.

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Did the media attention Jason Collins received scare off NFL teams thinking of signing a gay player? Collins has not been signed by an NBA team.

The NFL player told a former teammate he believes the Collins story, and others about gay athletes around that time, caused the team to withdraw its offer. It was afraid of the attention. Now, six months and countless injuries to active players later, neither he nor the other player has signed with a team.

While being afraid to sign an openly gay player smacks of cowardice—the Dodgers signed Jackie Robinson knowing there would be not only disapproval but possibly violence directed against the club—it remains a fact teams fear almost any type of controversy. And this would be one of the more talked about stories ever.

So after lots of talk of a gay NFL player coming out, the talk disappeared. Because NFL teams, in the end, got cold feet. It’s that simple.

The sport still isn’t quite ready for an openly gay NFL player.

***

All sources close to the players were asked one question repeatedly: Why don’t the players just come out?

The answer was the same—fear. If they come out before signing, they won’t get signed. While the players want to help push change, they also want to play football. Some will point to how Collins remains unemployed post-announcement.

The other problem is the league itself. It has, at times, moved extraordinarily slow on this issue. One gay-rights advocate who has had extensive dealings with the NFL said the league is trying to do the right thing but “it’s like changing the course of a cruise ship.”

Go back to an important fact. At least one league official believes pro football is three to five years away from a gay player coming out. Thus we’re seeing the S.S. NFL turning hard to starboard toward a gay player coming out, but turning ever so slowly.

It will happen. It’s just a question of when.

The two likeliest scenarios remain true. The first is what happened with the NBA’s Collins could happen in the NFL. A player toward the end of his career comes out while a free agent or just after signing with a team.

The other possibility is a high-profile player in college is openly gay and has discussed this in media interviews for years. By the time he’s picked high in the NFL draft, his sexuality has been so discussed and analyzed that no one cares.

And that is the goal. Reach a day when no one will care.

BG Note: The NFL Scouting Combine is a week-long showcase occurring every February in Indianapolis, Indiana, where college football players perform physical and mental tests in front of National Football League coaches, general managers, and scouts.

Frankly, we were surprised to read about the questions asked at the Combine. “Do you like girls?” WTF is that? The Combine is like a week-long job interview. Those kinds of questions would be illegal in any other job interview!

What do you think? Do you think it is more likely that a currently-signed NFL player or a retiring player will come out? Or do you think that the first openly gay player in the NFL will be someone who already acknowledged his homosexuality as a college player?

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106 comments to Gay Football Player May Come Out

  • Booboo1068

    I’m not sure but I wish him the best no matter what he decides. He sounds like a good guy and motivated by good reasons. It won’t be easy…it never is for trail blazers! I would think though it would be easier for a gay PGA player to come out (and you know they exist) than a tough contact sport like football. If he does come out I’m guessing he will be helping a lot young gay males in high school and college sports afraid to come out for the same reasons. I’ve heard the fans can often times be much harsher to deal with and judgemental than team mates.

  • 4sixx2

    Baltimore Ravens star Brendon Ayanbadejo is in DC supporting Prop 8. Whomever it is, I say, “YAY!!!” Love Equality for everyone!

    • sophiedg

      Agree with kudos to whoever it is, but doesn’t Brendon have a couple kids w/a longtime GF? I know it could still be him but I do hope the NFL star that comes out is unattached.

      • Jenna68

        I think he does. He’s a supporter because a. “…as the son of interracial parents whose own marriage would have been illegal in 16 states prior to the U.S. Supreme Court’s landmark Loving v. Virginia decision in 1967, he had no intention of remaining silent on an issue of conscience and public importance.” b. He’s a stand up guy.

    • NOH8

      Not to be a stickler, but he’s *opposing* Prop 8.

      Prop 8 attempted to make marriage only between a male and a female in California and was declared unconstitutional last spring.

  • litswd.tb

    I knew one of them would come out some day. . . Now I’m waiting for that gay president. . . Btw I’m calling Tony Romo

    • KWDragon

      We probably already had a gay president: James Buchanan, 15th POTUS.

      Rock on!

      • MyCatLovesTV

        Thank you, KWDragon, for knowing your history! Of course, there is no hard proof (pardon the pun) but all signs pointed to James Buchanan being our first gay president. So that door has already been opened & it need not be an issue. We can have gay presidents, lesbian presidents, straight female presidents, you name it…..America is a melting pot and the eras of old straight white men has run its course!

    • gypjet

      Maybe you don’t keep up with the news but Obama is gay. At least that’s what his ex lovers believe. He dated Larry Sinclair, Mohammed Chandoo, and others. He belonged to Rev. Wright’s Down Low Club. The Chicago gay community gives tours in the city where Obama had sexual liaisons. The info is all out there.

      • Deryn

        I’m no Obama fan — at all — but can we not with the “he’s GAY!” a) So what if he is? and b) Because it’s “all out there” on the internets does not make it true.

      • MyCatLovesTV

        I get so tired of the people coming out of the woodwork to say what they think is shocking OMG things about our president. I have relatives who say the most God awful things about the man and his wife that are personal attacks which have no reason to be brought up. Hate his politics and discuss your hate for his politics over on Huffington Post or somewhere. Like Deryn says so what if he were gay but I suspect that it very well is more crud spread by his enemies anyway. He loves his family and that is enough for me. And this thread isn’t about President Obama anyway.

      • ToadKisser

        Your definition of “the news” is beyond disturbing.

      • jacksonian

        It’s amusing that so many are pro-gay, supporting of every gay person coming out and shouting it from the roof; yet when someone brings up the common knowledge that Obama is gay, they freak out. LMAO

      • kspeedian

        Maybe it’s just me, but it only upsets me because of his wife and children. Now, if he is bisexual and Michelle knows, and he just happened to end up marrying a woman, than that’s totally cool with me. BUT, if he’s “on the downlow” (as they say) and is 100% homosexual and just married Michelle and had a family all as pawns to appear straight so that he could become president – that isn’t the type of person I’d want working with me at a Walmart, let alone running the country. So again, a bisexual, or bicurious at a younger age (ie- tried it a few times and it wasn’t for him) president Obama, who ended up finding his true love with a woman = A-Ok by me and I’m sure most people. But I think it’s HORRIBLE when men (or women) know they are gay and selfishly marry someone who TRULY loves them, having no idea they’re gay, just so that they can get ahead in life or feel more accepted. Imagine being the wife? How terrible! I say it’s fine to be mixed up about your sexuality.. even a lot of straight people experience that… but keep your confusion to yourself – meaning, don’t let it destroy other people. AKA – If you’re gay and not ok with it…. Just don’t get married…. Don’t be so selfish and USE someone just so you can “have a beard.” (Unless you’re implying Michelle knows, is using him right back for success/power and doesn’t care… to which I say… shame on all of them!!! But I don’t think that’s what you’re saying…)

      • chandler02

        jacksonian, the reason supporters of the LGBT community are horrified when people accuse people of being gay like gypjet did is because the people spreading the rumor are treating it like a slur or insult. The GOP has been rabidly anti-LGBT for a very long time and so it is in their nature to use such a matter as an attack. The rumor is completely tasteless and classless because of the way in which it is used.

      • Red Velvet

        Thank you Chandler02 and ToadKisser!

      • La Llorona

        OMG people are taking you seriously, lmaooo.

      • jacksonian

        Chandler, 1) You are assuming the GOP is responsible for outing Obama. 2) Gypjet said nothing about the GOP. 3) You are assuming it is a rumour when the proof / witnesses have been reported to determine otherwise. 4) How is reporting the truth “tasteless” and “classless”?
        Again, LMAO.

      • tennispeach

        The LAST thing about Obama I am worried about is if he is gay or not. I am worried about all of the unconstitutional things he has done, his cheating, lying, manipulation and corrupt ness that is moving this country not only to socialism (we are 80% there) but eventually communism!!!!

      • istillhavesarcasm

        Tennispeach- so many things wrong with your statement. You dropped one hateful remark (being gay) for another (omgz socialisms!1!!)
        1. The affordable healthcare act was deemed constitutional by the Supreme Court.
        2. The president doesn’t write laws, congress does and passes them.
        3. Socialism and communism are two different things, not two things on the same sliding scale.

        As Mike Wasowski said in Monsters Inc, “if you’re gonna insult me, do it properly.”

  • FamousPeopleDoStupidThings

    Idk who it could be but I saw a report about this on CNN this morning. I think the pubic will either shrug their shoulders or support him for having the courage to come out. How his teammates will receive it is anyone’s guess.

  • bluebell

    Hayden P’s former football “boyfriend”? I’m too lazy to look up his name.

  • LooksLikeCRicci

    I think it’s the NFL player who had the fake online girlfriend. And bravo if he came out.

  • Yuolala

    Baltimore Ravens linebacker -Brendon Ayanbadejo

    NY Jets quarterback -Mark Sanchez

    • Deryn

      LOL at “Mark Sanchez”. I’ll eat my hat if that’s true. Well, first I’ll have to buy a hat. The man is so busy with his young (and not so young) women that he can’t be bothered doing his job right.

      • JustTheFacts

        LOL! Word.

      • youbetterbekickinit

        I agree with the Mark Sanchez guess. It has long been rumored, and frankly, the fact that he always has a different woman on his arm (notice they never last long) make him suspicious in my eyes. He and Tebow go way back and the two of them have also been rumored (here again, Tebow’s ultra-religious stance makes my gaydar go up as well, although I don’t believe he would ever come out if this were the case).

        In addition, based on some of the other guesses here, keep in mind the blind says ACTIVE player.

        I must add, I would also not be surprised if it’s Tony Romo, but I’m sticking with Sanchez.

      • mugofmead111

        Re: ” The man is so busy with his young (and not so young) women that he can’t be bothered doing his job right.”

        LOL! Interesting explanation! Then what’s the problem with the rest of the Jets? ;)

  • Divide by Zero

    Don’t follow american sports, but good on this guy for at least thinking about it. I’d like to say that he’d have no problems, but you never know with a minority of fans. Good luck to him if he does decide to go through with it!

  • minx

    I have heard speculation that it will be Manti Te’o but I don’t think so. First, he’s actually not in the NFL yet and second, he’s a Mormon, Samoan and went to Notre Dame, and none of those are gay friendly.

  • cliffjensen

    didn’t watch NFL at all. this Time I’ll pass

  • stolidog

    You mean Romo and Chace Crawford are finally going public with their forbidden love??

  • Up the Coast

    NFL linebacker Brendan Ayanbadejo…he was on Face the Nation talking about bullying and marriage, etc.

  • Annaliese

    I hope whoever it is has the courage to come out. How horrible it would be to have to hide one’s sexuality! He will be a trailblazer and I wish him the best!

  • CoCoJoe

    Good luck to him. This shouldn’t be an issue, but men tend to take other men’s sexuality as a threat.

    • sugarbread

      not gay .supported anti-gay church and only backed out of speaking there b/c of public backlash. he is also not a virgin..cough..cough.. has had severel down low girlfriends for a long time. he is OBSTAIN FOR PAY ..AKA THE NEW BLACK..it is all image in christian community for endor$ments b/c he and his team knows he sucks at football and has to pay the bills

  • newsjunkie

    One step at a time. ONE person has to take that first step out of the closet and into the public.
    GOOD LUCK to him.

  • amandajo

    Braylon Edwards – this is a bummer to me because he is from my rival school michigan and he screwed over my browns when he was there but I have to support a man brave enough to come out despite all of my football allegiances against him.

  • joliefleur

    I would commend him on his bravery. I can’t wait for the day when this will be considered normal and not news-worthy. Until then, I hope he will actually do it and many more will follow his lead.

  • amstone30

    Kordell Stewart? Just filed from divorce from his trophy wife, lots of gossip about him being gay before he met her.

  • karaduff

    It blows my mind that anybody would care if a player is gay or not!!!! His sexual preference has nothing to do with his ability to play football. Good for him and shame on any players who won’t accept him for who he is.

  • jacksonian

    Can’t believe no one has guessed my all time favorite player….the studley, ADORABLE Tim Tebow!

  • CrossingTheLine

    I bet it’s Jay-Z’s BFF Larry Johnson (has support of a music mogul).

    I hope a lot of people come out and the reaction is “that’s great, now win me some football games”. It shouldn’t be an issue but it would help put away so many people’s greatest issue.

    Coming out may be a big deal but being out should be a big snooze.

  • BourgeoisStoner

    Chris Kluwe

  • YoGo8c

    Yes. Whoever this is good luck to them. I don’t wish to sound dramatic but I think there genuinely is a case for human rights by forcing bi/gay people to closet and conceal, often against their wishes.

    These people who are expected to pay into their own economic system the same taxes and insurances as straight people who are allowed to live freely. It also costs money to lie and cover up. Many closted stars have agents and reps who go to great lengths to conceal their real orientation for them. This takes deals with the media (who often know anyway) and other agencies to help fight off ‘rumours’ (also sometimes known as ‘the truth’), etc, and ‘straighten them up’ for what is seen as ‘public consumption’.

    I think it’s obvious, even to an amateur observer, just looking at the media coverage about ‘certain’ people; in sport, music and acting.

  • Deryn

    I wish it were Tony Romo. At least he’d be remembered for doing *something* significant as a QB. (Ba-ZING!)

  • DukeGrl1

    The only way this will happen is if the NFL approves it. It has nothing to do with WANTING to come out. If the NFL as an organization says NO, the press conference will NEVER happen.

    • sneezy

      I totally agree – I don’t see how Goodell wouldn’t want to have have his nose involved in something like this (not that he should in the first place – gripey season ticket holder for full disclosure).

      Wish the guy the best, whomever it is.

  • A Fellow Mick

    My money is on Arian Foster of the Texans. My gaydar goes off big time with him.

    That said, good for him. It’s time for a societal shift. Feels like its finally happening. Being a bigoted redneck is finally becoming the actual alternative lifestyle.

    • terry123

      “That said, good for him. It’s time for a societal shift. Feels like its finally happening. Being a bigoted redneck is finally becoming the actual alternative lifestyle.”

      Well said!

  • Bromance1979

    No guess, but good for him! It’s time for professional sports to accept gay athletes. What difference does an athlete’s sexual orientation make?

  • JumpingtheSnark

    I really don’t care about the NFL, and I know I’m a rarity. Supporting a gay player would be a reason for me to watch/attend a game. I wish this man the best, and hope he is able to make his own decision and not outed unwittingly.

  • PinkG

    I’m not catholic so I really don’t care.

  • scumby

    Is Gay-Z’s boyfriend Larry Johnson still playing? and Obama is gay -ask Donald Young. oops too late

  • Creamsoda

    I’m going with Cordell Stewart from RHOA, just filed for divorce from his wife and rumor has it that he was caught in a park in Pittsburgh with another guy 0_0…. here is an article link
    http://www.yazmar.com/2012/12/14/rhoa-dramaretired-nfl-kordell-stewart-gay/

  • Herkeda

    Please don’t let it be oh-so-cute Tim Tebow!

    I’m pretty sure that this closeted player is a white guy, and probably a second-tier or third-tier player instead of one of the big stars. Not because there aren’t any black gay athletes (there are), but because we haven’t seen a famous black person IN HIS OR HER PRIME come out of the closet. Black America (of which I am a part) has a “don’t ask, don’t tell” approach to such issues, and this guy would catch a lot of hell.

    However, I personally don’t care who this player is banging in his off-hours. Him playing good football is what’s importance, especially if he happens to be on my favorite NFL team!

  • MrsPatrickBateman

    I was talking to my guy about this and he said that the guy should just live his life and if he gets a picture taken with his bf just own and say yup that’s my bf. He said it would make it a lot smoother of a transition instead of a big news conference saying ‘hey look at me! I’m gay! I’m out!’ If you viewing being gay as no different than being straight than just live your life, straight players don’t do press conferences for their sex lives. It made a lot of sense, don’t make a giant deal out of it and it won’t be a giant deal.

    • valley of the dolls

      This makes a lot of sense and I think a lot of people (myself included) would be delightedly surprised if he were to just put a picture out there of him and his boyfriend, if he has one. The only issue is that he may not want to put his beloved in the public eye and possibly in harm’s way.

    • Superstition

      I agree. It shouldn’t have to be “news”. Just get out there and live your truth.

    • ToadKisser

      This sounds a lot like a homophobic acquaintance of mine who says, “I don’t talk about being straight, why do they have to talk about being gay?” The answer is, because your straightness is assumed. Just like the advantages of being white, male, and Christian are so ubiquitous as to be invisible, so is heterosexuality. Gay people officially “come out” because they want to change the world’s assumptions about them. Doing so quietly, slowly, is to have to continue to live a falsehood until every last person in their life makes the discovery.

  • pscheck2

    I’m tossing out this ‘speculation’ that it might be a icon who is revered by his fans and teammates. His supposed BFF has just been traded, much against his protests! BTW, he is married to a supermodel and has a couple of kids. No, it’s mot MS.

  • tkartk

    Please NOT Tebow! The Jets & Denver (Payton is the better QB) screwed him over enough already!

  • zephyr66

    Wild guess, but I am going with Jay Cutler. I know he has gotten publicity for some of his relationships with women, but those could have been arranged for him and whichever team he was with (first the Broncos, now the Bears).

    Whoever it is, though, I hope he manages to navigate the extra scrutiny and be able to just live his life, on his terms.

  • tkartk

    @ ToadKisser……….. Denver sent him to NY where is was never used for anything!

  • BoomsMom

    Im pretty sure we can now guess this is Kerry Rhodes.
    I just pray he is not tortured by players and fans. People finally need to be free to be who they are.

  • Marina

    Jason Collins just came out. Collins finished the season with the Wizards and will become a free agent.

  • gemini13

    Fantasy choice: Rob Gronkowski (The Gronk!)
    More likely choice: Tim Tebow

  • peaches

    people need too accept the fact that being gay doesn’t exclude you from society. i’ve heard the arguments from every side for many years and I don’t see how hate from anybody makes you a better person..

  • YoGo8c

    Isn’t it so sad when people are running scared of the following badly-thought out, imbecilic, low IQ nonsense from someone who is old enough to know the impact such words have on people struggling, and kids. Is it possible to get more stupid? Gay is GAY, it doesn’t mean a guy is gonna jump you in the shower because you’re ‘special’ The same as a random woman isn’t gonna jump you in the shower (because you’re a man and she’s a woman!)…….: “During media day before this past Super Bowl, 49ers defensive back Chris Culliver said, “I don’t do the gay guys, man. I don’t do that. Got no gay people on the team. They gotta get up outta here if they do. Can’t be with that sweet stuff…Can’t be…in the locker room, nah. You’ve gotta come out 10 years later after that.”

    God, this guy’s a douche.

  • newsjunkie

    It’s sickening that the NFL will give a nutjob sicko Mike Vick a $33 million dollar contract but God forbid what happens behind closed doors between two people who love each other is fobidden

  • rudy

    I think a retiring player will be the first to come out. Which would be great – his teammates can see it doesn’t make a damn bit of difference. football is football.

  • lovefifteen

    The well-known defensive back that still isn’t signed to any team has got to be Kerry Rhodes.

  • ravenglass

    The way I see it, anyone who is vehemently homophobic & constantly reminding us of how straight they are; is usually gay themselves. So Chris Culliver, if you’ve got a little secret of your own you’re trying to hide & cover up; better keep your ignorant comments to yourself.

    This also happened a few years ago in the NHL. A very popular player was all set to come out during a press conference but just a few minutes before, he cancelled out of fear of losing fans. So sad.

  • dontpanik

    Manny T’eo.

    clue is the size of the Chargers logo compared to the other teams.

  • Bertram Merriweather-Basilton III

    After the reports of questions about sexuality surfaced from the Scouting Combine, the League office quietly admonished the offending teams and informed the rest that such questions would not be tolerated and will be punished going forward.

    There are almost certainly gay NFL players that are out to at least some of their co-workers. Its a (probably small) portion of the NFL customer base that isn’t ready for openly gay players, not the league itself.

  • jacksonian

    I rather doubt that people who are proud to be straight are all gay. That is one of the most stupid things that people pushing the homosexual agenda say.

    • dontpanik

      First of all, there is no “homosexual agenda”. Wanting the same rights as fellow citizens is not an agenda. No one’s coming to your house to force you to flush the toilet, brush your teeth and cover up your computer cords for pete’s sake. Second, why on Earth would anyone be proud to be straight? You are born that way. You have no control over what color, gender or sexual preference you are born into so no reason to be proud or ashamed of any of it.

  • La Llorona

    He officially came out. Say Hello to Michael Sam!

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